Typically, the causes of premature ejaculation are stress, anxiety, and depression. The man does not seem to have a solution to delay ejaculation, so that this condition makes him anxious and even frustrating.
Identify Characteristics
Based on the consensus of the International Society of Sexual Medicine in 2014, premature ejaculation is a male sexual dysfunction which has the characteristics:
Since it was first intercourse, ejaculation always or nearly always occurs less than one minute after vaginal penetration. This condition is called primary premature ejaculation.
But, people who previously normal ejaculate can be brief, lasting less than three minutes after vaginal penetration. This condition is called secondary premature ejaculation.
Inability to hold ejaculation on all or nearly all vaginal penetration.
Negative personal consequences such as stress, anxiety, frustration, and avoid intercourse.
Make It
Here are some ways that can be done to overcome premature ejaculation:
Make foreplay (heating)
Foreplay is usually the most enjoyable phase of men and women. When done correctly and in sufficient time, will greatly increase the duration of foreplay and intercourse satisfaction.
Make a method for self-control
Make a method for self-control techniques such as stop-start or squeeze. Stop-start technique developed by dr. James Seaman, 1955.
In this technique, the man stimulates his penis until it feels almost climax (ejaculation), and then immediately stopped until the sensation is lost. After that, do stimulation back. This cycle can be repeated several times if necessary.
While the squeeze technique, the man stimulates his penis until it feels the urge to ejaculate, then immediately stopped and pressed the head of the penis to desire and sensation is lost. Stimulation can then be done again. This technique developed by Masters and Johnson, 1970.
Masturbation before sex
Masturbate one to two hours before sexual intercourse. This advice may seem controversial, but actually have a clear theoretical basis medically.
When ejaculation during masturbation, sensitivity of the penis tends to decrease. This led him to take longer to reach orgasm and ejaculation when stimulated back.
However, for some men, masturbate before intercourse can reduce sexual desire and cause an erection after less than maximum. Therefore, masturbate at least one hour before intercourse.
Shifting position during intercourse
Try having sex with the woman on top. This position makes him more relaxed and also reduce the stimulation of the tip of the penis.
Distracting
During intercourse with a partner, try to turn our attention to things that are boring. This keeps the focus diverted, so the sensation to the penis is reduced.
Use condoms thick
Thick condom use is not convenient for both men and women, but can reduce sensation and delay ejaculation.
Talk to your partner
Do not be embarrassed to talk to your partner about your condition and what can make you delay ejaculation. The goal is that you can relax. When relaxed, the chances of premature ejaculation would be reduced.
Exercising the pelvic floor muscles
These muscles are the same muscles you use to stop urinating. The practice is called Kegel exercises. This exercise can be done anywhere and anytime. When you've trained, pelvic muscles can be tightened when you are about to ejaculate.
Get enough sleep
You need enough sleep for 7 to 8 hours per day. Lack of sleep causes low levels of serotonin in the brain, which then triggers premature ejaculation.
therapeutic counseling
Root of the problem of premature ejaculation usually lies in the lack of communication and openness with your partner. The ways above will be more successful if accompanied by counseling together psikatier therapy, psychologist, or marriage counselor.
Therefore, it is important to be open with your partner about this condition. When premature ejaculation becomes a problem that is difficult to overcome, you can satisfy your partner in other ways she likes.
